Monday, April 18, 2011

This is How We Do It...the "Hard Work"

…by putting one foot in front of the other
I frequently am asked "how did you do this? How do I heal? How do I let the past no longer control my today? How do I get past this pain that never leaves me?"

Today I wanted to share a post that I wrote last year that was a storyboard of the path and process I followed to do the "hard work" of my healing journey.

Go here to read this post. There are quite a few links I'd like to invite you to click on and follow...each picture or soul collage has its own page and story behind it. There is also some Poetry and other examples of expressive work that I used to facilitate my journey from there where I lived in that dark place to here where today I live in the light:) 

What's the "hard work"?

Its the work in which I willingly entered into the pain of the past to finally experience it in a state of conscious awareness instead of avoiding it...and trust that I will survive it.

Its that place where I had acknowledged that the coping mechanisms where I was "acting in" or "acting out" that had protected me in the midst of the pain but no longer were serving me well as it had become the proverbial ball and chain that interfered with my ability to run the race or live my "best life".

Its that place where I learned how to no longer be a victim and desired to live far beyond survival. 

Its that place where I stopped avoiding triggers to cope and manage them and I began seeing them as the teacher that had shown up - because I was now the student who was ready.

Its that place where I realized that the only way out of this pain...

was to go through it

that I might finally 

live beyond it. 

Heres that link again where you can read this post and view its many links here:Whoops! I Did it Again! Using Creativity...

 Seek Knowledge, find Wisdom, live your Truth!


Jackie said...

Wow! This really hit home. It's just what I needed to hear today.

Susan said...

Hi Jackie! Thats great! Thank you for letting me know you related to this post!

Those light bulb moments are pretty cool, eh?

Take care and thanks for stopping by!

Layla said...

Youre post is so pertinent to me just now- so simple but wise and true.
Ive been on a rollercoaster of grieving childhood, my life, for 2 years since slowly coming of major tranquilisers.
My counsellor a month ago turned to me and said she thought I was 'delusional' and verging on 'psychosis'. Ive cut all ties . I wont accept any LABELS ever again. This seems to have acted as a catalyst as I've started standing up for myself with key people.This is painful and scary but it feels real and I'm learning to validate myself about the past and in the present. You are a guiding light. Youre posts never overwhelm me- they inspire me. Thankyou

Susan said...

Hi Layla! I'm sorry for the delay in getting back to you...I just found your comment in the spam folder:(

And - I'm glad you are here and thank you for your note and sharing your story. I'm sorry that your trusted "helper" said that to you. How invalidating and shaming. Sadly - therapeutic relationships are no different than family/friend relationships in when WE begin to find our voice and our strength they often have to shame us to protect their own issues. These are the "change back" messages and I am so so glad you recognized it for what it was.

I'm really glad that A Journey feels like a good place to be:) and thank you for sharing the path with me!