|An external focus often feels crazy, blurry and confusing|
In traditional self help and therapy the focus was often on avoidance of the people, places and things that stirred negative emotions for me. I'm sure the intent comes from a desire to educate and inform but in the end - this approach left me still feeling terribly powerless and guarded. I was constantly wondering who I could trust and in the end what I learned is that what it came down to was learning to trust myself.
I recall hearing about interpreting others thoughts, feelings and behaviors instead of understanding my own.
I was taught and learned how to assume others intentions instead of questioning mine.
I learned to identify and label others, making value judgements about an individual based on the label I attached to them.
In the end I realized that this external focus was not so helpful and...
that this served only to keep me on guard and wary of others; constantly questioning others motives and intent.
It was when I realized the power to live beyond the drama of dysfunction lay not in being able to "read" others intentions and label their behavior...
but in learning to understand why I kept returning to it - so that I could learn to live beyond it.
Learning to look within with my questions empowered me to live beyond looking to others for my solutions.
It only takes one to stop the dance.
It really is that easy. :)
Always in hope and tickled pink to see you blooming the way you are!
Seek Knowledge, find Wisdom, live your Truth!