From the archives - "Abuse Disguised...." an article that stemmed from recognizing power and control in religious and other professional venues and interpersonal relationships...
"Abuse is not selective and is in all life arena's and
...is all about telling another what to do, how to do it and when to do it
"you are wrong if you believe differently than I do or try to do it in any other way"...."
In understanding how to recognize and make different choices about the relationships we choose in our lives and the emotional boundaries we establish, it is helpful to understand what both a supportive relationship that encourages one to live their own "truth" might look like - as well as what a relationship looks like that is perhaps more about following and adhering to someone else's truth.
So for the next few post's I wanted to take a look at the idea of recognizing the difference between learning to seek for, find and live our own truth and if we might be falling into the subtle trap of believing someone else's truth over our own.
In seeking my own "truth" and finding relationships that supported my quest to discover how to go about creating and living my own "best life" each day I found one consistant factor that I could trust.
That if I was involved in relationships that supported my search for healing, wellness and my own "truth" - I saw progress in my quest.
I began to find peace, hope and happiness.
I began to see the light at the end of the tunnel
I had an overwhelming sense of "life is good" and "I am ok".
the nagging sense of "something is wrong....
and it must be me"
and an overwhelming sense of hoplessness, helplessness and
...I'll never be able to do this "right" or be "good enough"
...that came when I was following someone else's "truth" instead of seeking my own.
And that brings us back to today's quote...
"Believe those who are seeking the truth. Doubt those who find it." ~ Andre Gide
I began to recognize that when I was seeking my own truth, supportive relationships supported this and encouraged me, told me that I had the wisdom and the ability to find my answers and live MY truth vs the relationships that were criticizing, questioning and telling me that my answers were somehow wrong...and the answers they were providing were the "right" answers. That somehow their "truth" was the only truth and if I didn't agree...well, then...something was of course wrong with me.
Join us here next time as we continue to look at this idea of the difference between truth "seeking" and being a follower of someone else's "truth".