One of the things about the healing journey that I found to be (hmmph....) not so helpful...was when the focus was on the behaviors that had been my "normal" in and following the trauma experiences...but were now not so helpful.
Darlene Ouimet of Emerging From Broken had this to say recently about the change that changed her life....
The whole key was uncovering and discovering how my belief system about myself and the world, had formed and realizing it was full of lies that I believed about myself. As I replaced the lies with the truth, the coping methods fell away; because I didn’t need them anymore.
~ Darlene Ouimet
Very often in the journey the focus becomes the behavior.
Well, why wouldn't it?
Thats what we see.
But like Darlene - it was when I started looking at the issues underneath the coping methods that in the trauma were helpful - but had become "maladaptive" because these behaviors were affecting my ability to create and live the life that I wanted for myself.
Listen into one of the archived shows from last year at Empowering Solutions at Heal My PTSD at Blog Talk Radio:
"Its All About Avoidance"
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