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There are some things I AM powerless over but one of those things...is NOT me.
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One of - if not THE key issue for survivors of childhood oppression, abuse and neglect is that of feeling powerless.
But for me - I didn't know I felt powerless AND I'd been told by well meaning, albeit unhelpful, folks and programs of the past that I was powerless...
to let go...
let god...
and wish, pray and hope that life just kind of worked itself out and...
that there was nothing I could do.
That I was simply an observer and had to stop trying to "control" things.
The thing is and was that this never helped me to escape the pain that drove my misery.
Accepting being mistreated is not acceptable.
Accepting a life of "less than"...
is not acceptable.
In this frame of mind - that I was powerless over my life and the things that left me feeling abused, unhappy and generally discontent and
miserable
I was stuck.
After all - if I am powerless...what is there for me to do?
If I cant "make" others treat me well and life be fair...
well, what the hell?
This was that place where my focus was on what was going on AROUND ME...
instead of what was going on within me.
It was in understanding the difference between what I was truly powerless over...
People, places and things outside of myself
And what I DID have power over....
My beliefs, thoughts, feelings, emotions and choices...
that enabled me to shift from feeling powerless to understanding the meaning of...
being empowered....
from the inside out.
From the Archives
“Sometimes we get stuck focusing on the maltreatment and wanting what’s fair before we move on. Waiting for justice distracts us from doing things that are beneficial to us--like healing. We can’t change what already happened, but we can change the way we respond to those things. The abuse taught us to think like a victim waiting for rescue, but as adults, we’re empowered to rescue ourselves.” ~Christina Enevoldsen from www.overcomingsexualabuse.com
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