Monday, March 28, 2011
It is Never Too Late...
Here's something I wonder about...
We know and have acknowledged that emotional and mental distress is a normal response to abnormal life circumstances.
Research shows the correlation of distressful environments and trauma to mental health diagnosis.
Yet - those who suffer are labeled as "ill", "sick", "diseased" and "disordered"....while those who are the cause and source of the trauma, oppression, abuse and neglect are often not and if they are - they often use this as an excuse to continue to perpetrate this dysfunction in their families instead of as a reason for their own pain and to find a path to wholeness and healing.
Then as we enter the healing journey we are perhaps classified or identify ourselves as victims.
and this is true - I was a victim
but I am no more.
We have learned to survive...
but often not how to live beyond that.
Diagnosis is used as an end all; a reason for
"this is why I'm messed up"
instead of the beginning of a map to take us beyond "messed up".
We are taught coping skills and avoidance tactics to manage symptoms of these diagnosis that are said to be ingrained, inbred and unchangeable.
How do I know this?
Because I've BTDT. :))
Thats been there, done that :)
I resided in the mental health system that for nearly 2 decades told me that I was my problem; that my brain was broken.
I was also told that I was the problem why "therapy" and the drugs never worked.
I was "resistant"
"difficult, diseased, disordered and finally - dysthymic"...meaning I would never be "better".
That forever I would have this heavy cloud and fog overshadowing every moment
of every day.
And because I did not know any different
I accepted this as my "truth".
It was my "normal" to allow others to define me and direct my life and how I viewed my reality.
I no longer accept or identify with the idea that I am sick
or diseased, defective or disordered.
And I am most definitely not
I've chosen a different path
one that leaves me feeling empowered and enabled.
A path that has brought me to my "best life"....
The one I choose for myself and create
I no longer wish for a miracle
because I am one. :))
My passion is to share a message of hope, healing and self discovery that it is completely possible to learn to live far beyond that place of broken and
that it is never too late to learn to create
our best life.
Check the archives...
To Thine Own Self Be True (links to this 3 part series is in this post as well:))
I Am Not a Can of Soup (talking about labels:))
I've Got a Feeling! (this post talks about the language we use that defines our reality:))
Def:empower-empou-r-verb (this post discusses what it means to "empower" ourselves:))
And my wish for you.....I Hope you Dance... :))
The purpose of this blog....
Seek Knowledge, find Wisdom, live your Truth!