"So when will you be happy?" by those who seemed to have some secret that I didn't know about. My life was miserable. My relationships were often full of strife, my job was never the right job, my boss never the right boss, my hair, my weight, my car, clothes....
Were never just "enough".
I used to strive to be more, have more, do more. My value, my worth and my happiness were determined by people places and things that I could have, be or do.
The thing was - my focus on doing and having really didn't have much effect on my state of being and being happy.
I was happy for a minute if all worked out the way I thought it should work out.
Likewise if there were any snafu's I was not so happy and often sad or angry but not often truly "happy" but for a minute or two - when all was sparkly shiny and new.
Learning to understand that my state of well being was dependent on things outside of myself motivated me to search for the answers to being happy when the people places and things outside of my physical person didn't dance to my tune the way I thought they should.
I sought and I found that in letting go of the outcomes I usually got the outcome that I wanted.
Learning to let life unfold naturally meant learning to recognize when I was seeking my happiness in all the wrong places....
And that when I stopped looking...under the rocks, at the mall, the car dealership, the mortgage company or the boyfriend, husband, kids...
I found it in myself. :)
Happiness is (Not Always) A Choice Read here about how by understanding the source of my pain I was able to finally let go of it :)