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Wednesday, April 27, 2011 7:29 AM
Feeling the anger at being violated and having that anger heard can lead to the grief that offers the soothing balm of the tears that allow our emotional wounds to heal. Denying our anger or sharing our pain with those who cannot separate their own issues from ours serves to keep us stuck and unable to move into, through and out of our pain. ~Susan Ks 2011
Getting unstuck sometimes requires rocking the boat. When we are not finding relief from our pain we can take a look at what we are doing with it.
Becoming mired in "doing" the work or doing it "right", following someones "model" or therapeutic theory, accepting unsolicited advice from well intentioned but unenlightened folks who are still working out their own pain by fixing and rescuing others....
serves very simply and quite often as busy work that allows us to deny our feelings of anxiety and distress allowing us to put off doing the "hard work" of emotional healing.
Learning to identify "stuck" as a signpost of denial or bargaining where we are still looking for someone to...
"rescue" or "fix" us...
tell us what to do or what we are doing wrong....
can create the momentum that will allow us to move into, through and out of that place of stuck.
Emotional healing requires making that shift from "doing" to that place of "being" where we connect with and engage in emotional healing.
The only way out...
Trusting the process requires trusting myself.
We all hold the light and the wisdom.
It was when I stopped trying to find it in others that I found it in myself.
Read about what that was like for me here.
From the archives...
This is How We Do It...The "Hard Work"
Pain Is Pain
Intellect and Insight
"story"? Or "Story"?