Sunday, August 7, 2011

Getting Unstuck Sometimes Requires Rocking the Boat

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Wednesday, April 27, 2011 7:29 AM
From a recent post at the Empowering Solutions Facebook Community page....


Feeling the anger at being violated and having that anger heard can lead to the grief that offers the soothing balm of the tears that allow our emotional wounds to heal. Denying our anger or sharing our pain with those who cannot separate their own issues from ours serves to keep us stuck and unable to move into, through and out of our pain. ~Susan Ks 2011


Getting unstuck sometimes requires rocking the boat. When we are not finding relief from our pain we can take a look at what we are doing with it. 


Becoming mired in "doing" the work or doing it "right", following someones "model" or therapeutic theory, accepting unsolicited advice from well intentioned but unenlightened folks who are still working out their own pain by fixing and rescuing others....


serves very simply and quite often as busy work that allows us to deny our feelings of anxiety and distress allowing us to put off doing the "hard work" of emotional healing.


Learning to identify "stuck" as a signpost of denial or bargaining where we are still looking for someone to... 


"rescue" or "fix" us...


tell us what to do or what we are doing wrong....


can create the momentum that will allow us to move into, through and out of that place of stuck.


Emotional healing requires making that shift from "doing" to that place of "being" where we connect with and engage in emotional healing.


The only way out...


is through.


Trusting the process requires trusting myself.


We all hold the light and the wisdom.


It was when I stopped trying to find it in others that I found it in myself.


Read about what that was like for me here. 

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From the archives...


This is How We Do It...The "Hard Work" 


Pain Is Pain


Intellect and Insight 


"story"? Or "Story"?


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5 comments:

Layla said...
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Layla said...

This post is very pertinent to me just now. I've been on a roller coaster of grieving for my childhood, my life for the last two years since slowly coming off major tranquilizers. My counselor recently told me I was 'delusional' and verging on 'psychosis'. I cut all ties as I no longer accept any LABELS. In the same breath she had told me that she herself had depression over unresolved issues from childhood. Standing up to her(psychiatric system too) has acted as a catalyst as I am now standing up to key people in my life. This is scary and painful but I realize I am now learning to validate myself. Your'e posts never overwhelm me - they inspire me. Thank you x

Susan said...

Hi Layla; first...thank you for sharing part of your story. The journey is difficult but not as difficult as not taking the journey. I'm sorry your counselor wasn't supportive and in fact very abusing toward you. No one has the right to decide for another that ones pain is wrong. Its tough learning to stand up to this stuff and practice makes it easier over time. I'm so glad you find my posts to be supportive of your journey....I feel honored. :) Take care:) And thank you:)

Mystic_Mom said...

What a great post, and yes just like any kind of stuck there is some rocking to do, some working on things to get unmired in the muck. :-) Bright blessings!

Susan said...

Hey Mystic Mom! Yes! Thats the message here! Sometimes we have to make some waves to get things moving!